Missions Paul

This may be a Laban season for you. This chapter of Jacob’s story could be yours also. Stay honest and faithful. Your integrity will speak for you. You may be working hard, and the terms are changing continually. Perhaps someone is benefiting from your integrity, but in return, they are cheating you? This is the story we are reading today.

 ^“After Rachel gave birth to Joseph, Jacob said to Laban, “Send me on my way so I can go back to my own homeland. ²⁶ Give me my wives and children, for whom I have served you, and I will be on my way. You know how much work I’ve done for you.” ²⁷ , but Laban said to him, “If I have found favour in your eyes, please stay. I have learned by divination that the Lord has blessed me because of you.” ²⁸ He added, “Name your wages, and I will pay them.” ²⁹ Jacob said to him, “You know how I have worked for you and how your livestock has fared under my care. ³⁰ The little you had before I came has increased greatly, and the Lord has blessed you wherever I have been. But now, when may I do something for my own household?” ³¹ “What shall I give you?” he asked. “Don’t give me anything,” Jacob replied. “But if you will do this one thing for me, I will go on tending your flocks and watching over them: ³² Let me go through all your flocks today and remove from them every speckled or spotted sheep, every dark-coloured lamb and every spotted or speckled goat. They will be my wages. ³³ And my honesty will testify for me in the future, whenever you check on the wages you have paid me. Any goat in my possession that is not speckled or spotted, or any lamb that is not dark-coloured, will be considered stolen.” ³⁴ “Agreed,” said Laban. “Let it be as you have said.” ³⁵ That same day, he removed all the male goats that were streaked or spotted, and all the speckled or spotted female goats (all that had white on them) and all the dark-coloured lambs, and he placed them in the care of his sons. ³⁶ Then he put a three-day journey between himself and Jacob, while Jacob continued to tend the rest of Laban’s flocks.” (Genesis 30:25-36)

The time has come for Jacob. Joseph was born. It’s now 14 years since Jacob started working for his uncle Laban. He now believes it is time. He must leave and go back home. Laban knows that God has blessed him because Jacob was with him. “The Lord has blessed me because of you.” He knew it, even though he did not personally have a relationship with God.

Jacob asks what we perhaps don’t expect: the speckled, spotted, and dark-coloured animals will be his, and if any solid-coloured animal appears in his flock, then he can be called a thief.

This is the posture of someone who knows they don’t need to manipulate outcomes.

Laban agrees and then immediately cheats. That same day, he removes all the streaked, spotted, and dark animals from the general flock and puts them three days’ journey away, under the care of his own sons. He strips the gene pool before Jacob can work with it.

Jacob doesn’t erupt. He doesn’t quit. He keeps tending Laban’s flocks. Even though Laban deceives him, Jacob remains in position.

1. Even if people don’t see it or say it, they can see God’s blessing on your life and work. Laban could see God’s work and hand on Jacob even if he didn’t recognise it.
2. Jacob offered a fair proposal in good faith because he trusted God for his life.
3. We leave this stage of the story with Jacob not fully aware of what has taken place. Jacob proposes a deal, Laban accepts it, and then immediately cheats.

Jacob cannot see at this stage what Laban is doing, but God can.

This may be a Laban season for you. Stay honest and faithful.

God sees what’s happening behind your back. God knows the schemes against you. God is already working on your behalf, even when you can’t see it yet.

Stay faithful. Stay honest. God is watching, God is working, and God will vindicate you.

No one’s deception can steal the blessing from your life. What God has purposed for you will come to pass, regardless of who tries to cheat you out of it.

-Today I turn 60-

How did I get to this age so quickly? I blinked, I think. I’m pondering today: the years of joy and struggle have passed so quickly, prayers have been answered (and I’m so grateful to God), and some prayers have dimmed with the silent years.

“Then God remembered Rachel; he listened to her and enabled her to conceive. ²³ She became pregnant and gave birth to a son and said, “God has taken away my disgrace.” ²⁴ She named him Joseph, and said, “May the Lord add to me another son.” (Genesis 30 v 22-24)

After years of silence, waiting, watching her sister give birth again and again, tears, wondering if God had forgotten her, we read something beautiful.

“Then God remembered Rachel.” It doesn’t mean that God had forgotten Rachel and then, at last, He remembers her. It means the appointed time has come.

God’s timing has rarely matched my own. But looking back, His has always been better.

God had been listening to her. God is not impatient with our asking. He doesn’t grow tired of our repetitious prayers.

Rachel’s barrenness in her world was more than a private grief. It was a public shame. God is not only the healer of our lives but also of the shame attached to our wounds.

She is grateful, but she doesn’t stop there. She continues to be hopeful for the future.

She names him Joseph, which means “may He add.”

Rachel’s posture in the very moment of blessing is to say, “There is more. Lord, add to me”.

So that is my prayer on this birthday too. A prayer that says: You have been faithful for over 60 years. I trust You with whatever comes next. May You add to me. More of Your presence, more of Your purpose, more of the joy of watching You work.

If you are in a season that feels like God has forgotten you, He hasn’t.

If your prayers feel unanswered, they are heard.

If you are carrying shame or disappointment, that is not the end of your story.

Rachel’s story didn’t begin with Joseph. It began with years of aching, praying, and not yet seeing.

Sixty years in, I am more convinced of this than ever: God is faithful. He remembers.

In one of the Bible’s more unusual stories, two sisters negotiate over fertility plants while their shared husband simply goes along with whatever arrangement has been made for him. It is messy and very strange, but at its centre is the presence of God.

^“ During wheat harvest, Reuben went out into the fields and found some mandrake plants, which he brought to his mother Leah. Rachel said to Leah, “Please give me some of your son’s mandrakes.” ¹⁵ But she said to her, “Wasn’t it enough that you took away my husband? Will you take my son’s mandrakes too?” “Very well,” Rachel said, “he can sleep with you tonight in return for your son’s mandrakes.” ¹⁶ So when Jacob came in from the fields that evening, Leah went out to meet him. “You must sleep with me,” she said. “I have hired you with my son’s mandrakes.” So he slept with her that night. ¹⁷ God listened to Leah, and she became pregnant and bore Jacob a fifth son. ¹⁸ Then Leah said, “God has rewarded me for giving my servant to my husband.” So she named him Issachar.¹⁹ Leah conceived again and bore Jacob a sixth son. ²⁰ Then Leah said, “God has presented me with a precious gift. This time my husband will treat me with honour, because I have borne him six sons.” So she named him Zebulun.²¹ Some time later she gave birth to a daughter and named her Dinah.” (Genesis 30 v 14-21)

This peculiar part of the story only makes sense when we know that Mandrakes in the ancient world were associated with fertility and love.

Reuben brings some of these plants to his mum, Leah, who had already given birth to Jacob’s sons but lacked his love and attention.

Rachel, the beloved wife who had not yet given Jacob any children, is desperate and will try any remedy on offer. They were not on offer. Leah’s response was that Rachel had everything; she certainly had the one thing Leah had longed for, Jacob’s love. So will she take her son’s mandrakes too?

What follows is quite bizarre, and surely there must be some more interactions?

Rachel trades a night with Jacob for the mandrakes. It is bizarre, isn’t it? Presumably, this happens not just once but twice more. Leah meets Jacob at the end of his working day and tells him he’s bought a night with him. Jacob perhaps simply shrugs his shoulders and goes along with the transaction. It seems terribly dysfunctional, but v 17 shows that God was involved, “God listened to Leah, and she became pregnant …”

Isn’t that amazing? Read it again. In His listening, God acts, and Leah becomes pregnant again and again, then bears a daughter (at the moment, nothing more is said, and no one would want to predict what would happen to Dinah, even if they could; we will get to that eventually).

Leah, the woman who is unloved, has God’s attention. This is the main point at this time.

In a very messy family story, God is present.

God does not wait for people to have their lives in order before he engages with them. He is there. Leah knows He has seen her and heard her; she is not forgotten. Perhaps this is all that faith really is and what matters.

Leah was watching. She had spent years watching her sister Rachel and watching who Jacob would gaze upon, and she was always second. Her life could be summed up as ‘loved less and seen less’.

“When Leah saw that she had stopped having children, she took her servant Zilpah and gave her to Jacob as a wife. ¹⁰ Leah’s servant Zilpah bore Jacob a son. ¹¹ Then Leah said, “What good fortune!”So she named him Gad.¹² Leah’s servant Zilpah bore Jacob a second son. ¹³ Then Leah said, “How happy I am! The women will call me happy.” So she named him Asher.” (Genesis 30 v 9-13)

Rachel is still scoring more points with Jacob in her eyes, and so she gives Jacob her servant Zilpah. It really does seem an exhausting competition.

But slow down, something has changed. Leah seems to have changed. She chooses names with thoughts of fortune and happiness in mind.

The weeping unloved woman of many years, who on her wedding night was humiliated, who chose names for her first 2 children to show her misery of not being loved, has changed. The landscape has changed.

Her circumstances haven’t changed; she is still number two in the love table. Her life is still painfully complicated, but she seems not to be focusing on what she lacks. Her first four sons’ names all focused on what she didn’t have. Things are different now. The difference is her perspective on life. She is no longer looking to Jacob for her well-being. Do you see the difference? “The women will call me happy.” Her focus has changed. She has stopped looking to the same people for approval.

Joy doesn’t always arrive when circumstances change. Sometimes it arrives when we change, when we begin to notice what God is doing in the margins of our story, in the places we didn’t expect, through people and gifts we didn’t plan for.

The women would call Leah happy. And perhaps, for the first time in a long time, she was beginning to believe it herself.

We turn now to Rachel, Jacob’s second wife, but the first in his heart. She was struggling to conceive, and what follows is a familiar pattern among the people of God: when waiting becomes unbearable, the temptation is to act.

“When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, ‘Give me children, or I’ll die!’ Jacob became angry with her and said, ‘Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?’ Then she said, ‘Here is Bilhah, my servant. Sleep with her so that she can bear children for me and I too can build a family through her.’ So she gave him her servant Bilhah as a wife. Jacob slept with her, and she became pregnant and bore him a son. Then Rachel said, ‘God has vindicated me; he has listened to my plea and given me a son.’ Because of this she named him Dan.” (Genesis 30:1-6)

Is someone close to you experiencing something you desperately want for yourself? It’s not a pleasant feeling. The gap between what we have and what we long for can feel unbearable when someone else seems to have it so easily.

Rachel hadn’t learned from history. Abraham and Sarah had done the same thing with Hagar, and it hadn’t ended well. Once again, a human solution to a divine timing problem created more pain than it resolved. When the waiting becomes too much, the instinct is always to engineer something, to fill the silence with action. Rachel does exactly that.

What’s striking, though, is what happens at the moment of blessing. Rather than congratulating herself on her clever scheme, Rachel looks up. “God has vindicated me,” she says, the language of a courtroom, of a judge ruling in someone’s favour. It implies she felt she was in a dispute, perhaps with Leah, perhaps even with Jacob, who had suggested the problem lay with God himself. However tangled her methods, her instinct in that moment is to credit grace rather than cleverness. Perhaps that tells us something: even our most impatient reaching can somehow land in God’s hands.

But then a second son is born, and something has shifted.

“Rachel’s servant Bilhah conceived again and bore Jacob a second son. Then Rachel said, ‘I have had a great struggle with my sister, and I have won.’ So she named him Naphtali.” (Genesis 30:7-8)

The language has changed entirely. Where the birth of Dan prompted gratitude to God, the birth of Naphtali prompts something far more earthly, the satisfaction of settling a score. Along the way, Rachel’s longing for a child has quietly curdled into a longing for victory over her sister.

This is how comparison tends to work in us. It rarely stays still. Rachel began in genuine anguish, a woman who simply wanted a child. But somewhere between Dan and Naphtali, that grief reshaped itself into competition. She stopped asking, “Give me this good thing,” and started asking, “Let me have more than her.”

There’s also something poignant about the nature of rivalry here. Rachel declares she has won, but Leah is still there. The marriage is still complicated. The household is still fractured. Winning a round in a rivalry rarely ends it; it usually just raises the stakes for the next one.

The Bible doesn’t tell us Rachel was wrong to feel this way. It simply records her words with quiet honesty and lets the reader sit with the unease because most of us recognise it. The moment we begin to frame someone else’s life as a competition we’ve entered, we’ve already lost something more important than whatever we’re fighting for.

Two sons have been born. And Rachel, for all her gains, still sounds like someone who is losing.

“She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “This time I will praise the Lord.” So she named him Judah.Then she stopped having children.” (Genesis 29 v 35)

This time I will praise the Lord. This time, I will put down my problem.

It was as if the Lord was saying, “Well, I love you, will I do?”

Leah came to terms with her life. She stopped embracing the problem. God was pleased, and He chose Judah for special favour.

Psalm 78: 67-68 “he rejected the tents of Joseph, he did not choose the tribe of Ephraim; but he chose the tribe of Judah, Mount Zion, which he loved.”

Psalm 114: 2 Judah became God’s sanctuary,

Judah had the special presence of God.

Leah chose to praise God rather than tell everyone how tough things were for her.

The result was that God came and placed His favour on her son.

The same favour, blessings and presence of God on Judah is available to us as we, even in difficulties, offer praise to God. God dwells in the people of praise.

The name in Hebrew is Yadah, and it means ‘God/Yahweh be praised.’

Alongside ‘to praise’, it also means ‘to revere or worship with extended hands’ or ‘to give thanks’.

Judah is the key to changing your environment. Judah is what attracts the presence of God to us. Judah is the pathway on which God will lead us through even immense difficulty. It would be very hard to be defeated, afraid, silent, grumbling or worse with a name like Judah!

Remember the Passover meal of Jesus, the last supper with his disciples before the cross? He and his disciples sang a hymn. It was called the Hallel, it was the whole of the Psalms 113-118, praise to God for his salvation from Egypt, and He being the eternal Saviour. So, hours before Jesus’ most dreadful and terrifying moment, the crucifixion and death, he sings!

The blessing of praise is this: “Your hand will be on the neck of your enemies” Genesis 49:8

“May the praise of God be in their mouths and a double-edged sword in their hands, to inflict vengeance on the nations and punishment on the peoples, to bind their kings with fetters, their nobles with shackles of iron, to carry out the sentence written against them— this is the glory of all his faithful people.” Psalm 149:6-8

Every time we praise, we are declaring to the spiritual powers that our hands are on the neck of an already defeated enemy. That is because of Jesus’ victory on the cross, where Satan was stripped of power and authority over us. Then I will praise my God and squeeze some more victory out of you that is rightfully mine.

There is a father of lies who is against you, trying to steal, kill and destroy you, and JUDAH is your greatest defence.

Those who don’t understand JUDAH are in fear of what the enemy can do as a “roaring lion prowling around looking for someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8). But there is another LION, a far greater LION and people who JUDAH live in trust of the LION of the TRIBE OF JUDAH! (Revelation 5:8).

The Lion of the tribe of Praise has defeated and won every battle. We are called to press in, clear up, and take back what belongs to us.

Leah’s story isn’t finished, and eventually we will return to her.

Leah’s first response to God’s blessing reveals her deepest pain. The Lord has seen her misery – she acknowledges God’s awareness. But her hope is still fixed on changing Jacob’s heart. “Surely my husband will love me now.”

Perhaps you are reading this today and hoping for something to change. You have been praying for such a long time. Like Leah, you may have come up with a plan, and while you wait, you are thinking, “Surely …”

Leah’s lesson to us all is that God will wait until you have exhausted your plans and begin to praise Him through the difficulty you are facing.

^“Leah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Reuben,for she said, “It is because the Lord has seen my misery. Surely my husband will love me now.” ³³ She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son, she said, “Because the Lord heard that I am not loved, he gave me this one too.” So she named him Simeon. ³⁴ Again she conceived, and when she gave birth to a son, she said, “Now at last my husband will become attached to me, because I have borne him three sons.” So he was named Levi. ³⁵ She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son, she said, “This time I will praise the Lord.” So she named him Judah.Then she stopped having children.” (Genesis 29 v 32-35)

Reuben (it means see, a son): Leah now knows God has seen her misery; surely she will be loved by Jacob. The problem is still her focus. The gift from God becomes a means to an end – a tool to win the affection she craves.

Simeon (it means the one who hears): Leah is still naming her pain. “I am not loved.” God hears. God responds. But notice – she’s still defining herself by what she lacks, by who doesn’t love her. Her identity is still wrapped up in her problem rather than in God’s provision.

Levi (maybe from the word attached):  Three sons. Surely this is enough? “Now at last” – there’s desperation in these words. How many blessings does it take before Jacob notices? Before he loved her? She’s still measuring God’s gifts by whether they change her circumstances with Jacob.

Judah (derived from the word praise): Everything changes with the fourth son. “This time I will praise the Lord.” Not “surely my husband will love me now.” Not “because I am not loved.” Not “now at last he will become attached to me.” This time – just praise. Pure praise to God. Leah finally moved from problem to praise. She stopped looking at what Jacob wasn’t giving her and started looking at what God was giving her.

Notice what happens: “Then she stopped having children.” When Leah’s focus shifted from her problem to praise, something changed. God had accomplished what He intended – not to change Jacob’s heart necessarily, but to change Leah’s heart.

From Judah – the son named “praise” – would come the line of kings. From Judah would come King David. From Judah would come Jesus Christ, the Messiah.

When you move to praise, God changes you. And when you change, the problem can change.

Are you still at Reuben, Simeon, or Levi? Or have you arrived at Judah – where praise is on your lips regardless of whether your circumstances have changed?

Every generation needs a new song. Every situation needs a new song.

It is not the song itself, but it is the heart behind the singer. Praise stems from the heart.

Whatever the situation – “May the praise of God be in our mouths.” Psalm 149:6.

When the sun rises, creation sings. But David says it the other way round.

Psalm 57: 7-8 “I will sing and make music. I will awaken the dawn.”

God always does something in you before He does something outside of you. The internal is more important than the external.

The new song is the song that is sung before dawn, in the night, where there is darkness, fear, terror, loneliness, isolation, God says sing!

A couple of weeks ago, in the far north of Kenya, a group of us witnessed a church with no building, which gathered under a tree, that had little food and water, only one set of clothes that they were wearing, no prospects for change and yet … they joyfully sang, they enthusiastically danced and they clapped their hands with praise to God. They are ready for God to move upon them. Not because they have plans for a borehole and for the ability to plant crops to feed their children, but because praise is on their lips to their God who is for them.

The story we have been reading about Jacob’s first wife, Leah, reminds us that the sooner we can turn our problems into praise, the better it will be for us.

 ^“When the Lord saw that Leah was not loved, he enabled her to conceive, but Rachel remained childless. ³² Leah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Reuben,for she said, “It is because the Lord has seen my misery. Surely my husband will love me now.” (Genesis 29 v 31-32)

How easy to move from the problem to the plan. The plan is always to get out of the problem or to change the situation to make things better. But God’s prescription is different. God’s prescription is to move from the problem to praise when He can then come and change you and then the situation. Leah would eventually realise this over the next few years.

How do Christians in our world live under incredible problems? They have learnt the key to praising God, and God inhabits them, changing their attitude toward their problems.

What needs changing is not your problem, but you, and when we are changed, the problem can be changed.

“When the Lord saw that Leah was not loved, he enabled her to conceive, but Rachel remained childless.” (Genesis 29:31-32)

God opened her womb, and she started having children. Her plan was that if she could have children, Jacob might love her. That’s what was wrong.

You may be an unloved woman – God knows that. He will do things in and through you that the most loved woman cannot do. Many are just women of men, but God will turn you into a woman of God.

Our plans can seem so godly, so close to what God wants, but close is not good enough; it needs to be God’s will.

But Leah’s plan was running too far ahead of God. She thought this would lead to Jacob loving her; she had not yet let go of her problem, and it was still important to her.

God sees you in your misery. God responds to your pain. But the question is: will you move from problem to plan, or from problem to praise?

When you move to praise, God changes you. And when you change, the problem can change.

Leah lived in the shadow of her younger sister, Rachel. She was the first wife of Jacob by default, unloved by him; she had been rejected by other men, presumably and perhaps even worse of all, used by her own father.

If you have ever felt like a second choice, then this story is for you.

“After Jacob had stayed with him for a whole month, ¹⁵ Laban said to him, “Just because you are a relative of mine, should you work for me for nothing? Tell me what your wages should be.” ¹⁶ Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the older was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. ¹⁷ Leah had weak eyes, but Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful. ¹⁸ Jacob was in love with Rachel and said, “I’ll work for you seven years in return for your younger daughter Rachel.” ¹⁹ Laban said, “It’s better that I give her to you than to some other man. Stay here with me.” ²⁰ So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her. ²¹ Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give me my wife. My time is completed, and I want to make love to her.” ²² So Laban brought together all the people of the place and gave a feast. ²³ But when evening came, he took his daughter Leah and brought her to Jacob, and Jacob made love to her. ²⁴ And Laban gave his servant Zilpah to his daughter as her attendant. ²⁵ When morning came, there was Leah! So Jacob said to Laban, “What is this you have done to me? I served you for Rachel, didn’t I? Why have you deceived me?” ²⁶ Laban replied, “It is not our custom here to give the younger daughter in marriage before the older one. ²⁷ Finish this daughter’s bridal week; then we will give you the younger one also, in return for another seven years of work.” ²⁸ And Jacob did so. He finished the week with Leah, and then Laban gave him his daughter Rachel to be his wife. ²⁹ Laban gave his servant Bilhah to his daughter Rachel as her attendant. ³⁰ Jacob made love to Rachel also, and his love for Rachel was greater than his love for Leah. And he worked for Laban another seven years.” (Genesis 29 v 14-30)

Leah was humiliated.

On their wedding night, in a darkened tent, the deception unfolded. “When morning came, there was Leah! So Jacob said to Laban, ‘What is this you have done to me? I served you for Rachel, didn’t I? Why have you deceived me?'” (v23, 25).

Can you imagine the shock Jacob had in the morning—he had slept with the wrong bride! But think of how Leah felt. The morning light revealed not just her identity but her husband’s horror and disappointment. There are things from the past that humiliated you, and perhaps you still feel the hurt. Jesus is the healer of hurts.

Leah was used.

“Finish this daughter’s bridal week; then we will give you the younger one also, in return for another seven years of work.’ And Jacob did so. He finished the week with Leah, and then Laban gave him his daughter Rachel to be his wife” (verses 27-28).

Leah became a transaction, a means to an end. Women in our society have also lost their independent personality and have become objects of desire or disgust, used and cheapened.

Leah’s story isn’t over. Yet it already speaks to everyone who has felt like a second choice, or who has looked in the mirror and felt inadequate, or who has experienced the crushing weight of being unwanted.

But here’s what we must remember: God sees the Leahs of this world.

He sees those who feel ordinary, overlooked, and unloved.

Your worth is not determined by who chooses you, but by the One who created you and calls you His own.

He is the healer of hurts, the redeemer of rejection, and the One who sees you exactly as you are and loves you completely.

You are not defined by who rejected you. You are defined by the God who chose you first.

Here’s a summary of what is coming up in the next chapter of Jacob’s life, before we begin reading the first part of it. Apt that it is Valentine’s Day today.

Jacob fell in love with Rachel, the younger and more beautiful daughter of his uncle Laban. To marry her, Jacob agreed to work for Laban for seven years. However, on the wedding night, Laban deceived Jacob by substituting Leah, the older daughter, for Rachel. When Jacob discovered the switch the next morning and complained, Laban offered him, Rachel as well, but only after completing the wedding week with Leah and agreeing to work another seven years. Jacob accepted because of his love for Rachel. This created tension between the two sisters, as Leah bore Jacob many children while Rachel initially remained childless, despite being Jacob’s favourite wife.

Living in someone else’s shadow is exhausting. If you constantly compare yourself to others, it can destroy the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to truly live. Leah listened and watched her sister. Every compliment she heard, and every loving look she saw coming from Jacob to Rachel, was a reminder of what she lacked. Her heart was constantly wounded.

Here’s the passage:

“After Jacob had stayed with him for a whole month, ¹⁵ Laban said to him, “Just because you are a relative of mine, should you work for me for nothing? Tell me what your wages should be.” ¹⁶ Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the older was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. ¹⁷ Leah had weak eyes, but Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful. ¹⁸ Jacob was in love with Rachel and said, “I’ll work for you seven years in return for your younger daughter Rachel.” ¹⁹ Laban said, “It’s better that I give her to you than to some other man. Stay here with me.” ²⁰ So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her. ²¹ Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give me my wife. My time is completed, and I want to make love to her.” ²² So Laban brought together all the people of the place and gave a feast. ²³ But when evening came, he took his daughter Leah and brought her to Jacob, and Jacob made love to her. ²⁴ And Laban gave his servant Zilpah to his daughter as her attendant. ²⁵ When morning came, there was Leah! So Jacob said to Laban, “What is this you have done to me? I served you for Rachel, didn’t I? Why have you deceived me?” ²⁶ Laban replied, “It is not our custom here to give the younger daughter in marriage before the older one. ²⁷ Finish this daughter’s bridal week; then we will give you the younger one also, in return for another seven years of work.” ²⁸ And Jacob did so. He finished the week with Leah, and then Laban gave him his daughter Rachel to be his wife. ²⁹ Laban gave his servant Bilhah to his daughter Rachel as her attendant. ³⁰ Jacob made love to Rachel also, and his love for Rachel was greater than his love for Leah. And he worked for Laban another seven years.” (Genesis 29 v 14-30)

Leah was Jacob’s first wife, but she wasn’t his first choice. He had been deceived by her father. Jacob was in love with her younger sister Rachel.

Genesis 29:17 tells us, “Leah had weak eyes, but Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful.” Rachel was more beautiful; every man wanted Rachel. Leah was in the background, ordinary. Added to the problem was that Leah was older. If she had been younger, she might have grown into a beautiful woman. But she’s older, Rachel is more beautiful, and Rachel has more years on her. Sometimes our problems are magnified by our age—time is running out to see that desire or dream fulfilled.

Then there was the weight of comparison.

She had weak eyes. Maybe you look in the mirror and do not like what you see, and you wish something were different about you. You may feel cheated in life because of the way you look, the way you talk, your natural gifts, and your limitations. Leah understood this burden intimately. Every day she lived in the shadow of her sister’s beauty, reminded of what she was not.

She was unloved by Jacob. Verse 18 makes this painfully clear: “Jacob was in love with Rachel and said, ‘I’ll work for you seven years in return for your younger daughter Rachel.'” But the rejection went deeper than just Jacob. She was unloved by other men, Laban himself admitted in verse 26, “It is not our custom here to give the younger daughter in marriage before the older one.” Laban had tried to marry her off for years with no success.

She was even unloved by her father. “So Laban brought together all the people of the place and gave a feast. But when evening came, he took his daughter Leah and brought her to Jacob, and Jacob made love to her” (verses 22-23). What father would do this? In her day, Leah had to obey, and maybe she thought Jacob would learn to love her. Many women and men feel unloved today. The good news is that God cares about the rejected, and He loves you.

Do you know the feelings of Leah?

Leah would need to know that her value was not determined by how she measured up against her sister. Maybe there is someone reading this today who feels unloved, less than ordinary, in pain, feeling overlooked, second best. Please, hold on, the story of Leah isn’t over, and it isn’t over for you either. These stories in the Bible reveal a God who specialises in lifting the rejected and the overlooked. He hasn’t finished with you yet.