There has been a push-back against these words over the years and rightly so. Tough love has a no-nonsense and no-negotiation approach whilst still proclaiming this is done in love. The challenge has been because some have taken this to the borders of abuse damaging relationships etc. It is a fine line and one that some fail in their crossing of it. Yet softness doesn’t seem to work either.
Paul is closing down his letter. See how strongly he feels about what he has written.
“Take special note of anyone who does not obey our instruction in this letter. Do not associate with them, in order that they may feel ashamed. Yet do not regard them as an enemy, but warn them as you would a fellow believer.” (2 Thessalonians 3 v 14-15)
Strong words aren’t they?
But the intention is not for exclusivity in itself but to bring back the disobedient believer. This is not for the sins of murder or immorality etc. It is for those who are not complying with Paul’s command to work hard. What he means I think is don’t let them keep borrowing with no intention to repay, don’t let them carry on sponging. But do explain that enough is enough and that it is them who needs to change.
The devil never warns us. He wants us to fail. He will never come alongside and say if you don’t do what you are reading in the Bible (ie Paul’s letter) it is all going to go wrong for you. It is the Church that is commanded to warn. But if we don’t then who is going to do it? No one and every one will live as they seem fit. When we warn, don’t do it as if they’re an enemy, someone you don’t like, but as a loved brother or sister in Christ who you want the very best for.
Who are you in relationship with today that God is calling you to warn? Tread carefully, pray for wisdom, but don’t miss any opportunity God may give.
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