Love hopes 

“It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭7‬ ‭NIV

She did it first on 16th November 1952. Charlie Brown explains to Lucy: “All you have to do is hold the ball. Then I come running and kick it.” She’s not so sure. “I don’t know if this is such a good idea.” Charlie Brown comes running, but, at the last moment, Lucy pulls back the football, explaining to the prostrate kicker: “I was afraid your shoes might be dirty, Charlie Brown. I don’t want anyone with dirty shoes kicking my new football.” He tells her: “Don’t you ever do that again! Do you want to kill me? This time, hold it tight!” She does, so tightly, he kicks a ball, which doesn’t move, and tumbles onto his back. “I held it real tight, Charlie Brown.” He laments: “I’m not going to get up. I’m going to lie here for the rest of the day.” Lucy would continue some variant of the football snatch in almost every subsequent year of the strip, all the way to 1999. The same would happen nine times in animation. Drawing the strip for the last time, Charles Schultz said that he realized, sadly, that Charlie Brown would never kick that football, but, he also thought, having him succeed would have been a disservice to the character.

I wonder today if you are living with hope of kicking the ball?

Priest and theologian, Henri Nouwen (1932-1996) said this of hope, it “expects the coming of something new. Hope looks toward that which is not yet. Hope reaches out beyond ourselves to a power beyond us. Hope is grounded in the historic Christ-event … and as a dramatic affirmation that there is light on the other side of darkness.” (in Seeds of Hope)

After quitting school early and a brief time in Europe working as a Red Cross driver taking soldiers to the frontline he returned to Kansas to become a cartoon illustrator. But he lost his job because the editor claimed he had no imagination. How wrong that was! He headed out to Hollywood and had failure after failure with his ideas. Universal stole his ‘Oswald the Lucky Rabbit’ idea and MGM rejected his talking mouse and his ‘Three Little Pigs’ never saw the light of day. But he kept going. Half the audience walked out of his ‘Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs’; ‘Pinocchio’ was a financial disaster; in fact all the classic films that I grew up on and which broke record after record at the Oscars and which billions of people have now watched was only possible because one failed man held on to hope. Of course the man is Walt Disney (1901-1966); the Walt Disney Company is estimated now at around $130 billion.

February 1st 1975, a famous prisoner, Nelson Mandela (who spent 27 years in prison) wrote to his wife Winnie, “You may find it difficult at first to pinpoint the negative features in your life, but the 10th attempt may yield rich rewards. Never forget that a saint is a sinner who keeps on trying. … No ax is sharp enough to cut the soul of a sinner who keeps on trying, one armed with the hope that he will rise and win in the end.”

Hope is more than optimism. There may not be any hopeful aspects of a situation which optimism clings to. But hope is found not in a situation but in a loving Saviour.

Hope is more than being positive. There may be no moving forward, no direction and no increase. But hope is found not in progress but in a Person named Love.

In his book ‘Deserted by God?’, Sinclair Ferguson shares the following story:
“The first physician to die of the AIDS virus in the UK was a young Christian. He had contracted it while doing medical research in Bulawayo, Zimbabwe. In the last days of his life, his power of communication failed. He struggled with increasing difficulty to express his thoughts to his wife. On one occasion she simply could not understand his message. He wrote on a note pad the letter J. She ran through her medical dictionary, saying various words beginning with J. None was right. Then she said, “Jesus?”
That was the right word. He was with them. That was all either of them needed to know.

Hope has a name and that name is Jesus.

Love trusts

“It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭7‬ ‭NIV

Let’s remind ourselves why the Apostle Paul is taking so long to explain what love is and is not. It’s because the church in Corinth needed to know. Mistrust was a common element in their church.

I know some reading this today will have experienced trust being broken. A promise not kept, a secret revealed or a boundary crossed. You have had to learn to trust again. To love again.

Choosing to trust is always an act of courage. Love is indeed that, courageous.

But if we don’t take that step of faith to trust we miss what it is to be human at the deepest level.

We were created for community and for it to be at the love level and that involves trusting each other.

Our calling and our destiny is better discovered and expressed through community than trying to convince a community of our own individual and personal revelation of the ministry Jesus wants us to do.

We were never meant to go it alone.

  • Such singular approach to life holds too many temptations for stardom. ‘I did it my way’ is the song of the individual who will not share their life with anyone. Your marital status is not the sign whether you are doing life alone or not. I’ve known married couples not trusting each other and I’ve known single people who have opened their life and live vulnerable lives in a group of people they trust. The gospel was meant to be shared together. That takes trust and it therefore needs love.

How are your horizontal relationships? Who are you walking with? Who is holding you accountable and who is laughing with you? Share your life, learn to trust, it is better that way. As you get older don’t let the disappointments of your life prevent the fulfilment of new friendships of trust.

Love protects 

“It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭7‬ ‭NIV

“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭7‬ ‭ESV‬‬

“Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening].”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭7‬ ‭AMP‬‬

“Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭7‬ ‭NLT‬‬

There’s so much in this passage of love.

I love the translations above. It helps to form a picture that love protects others no matter what they have done or not done and never gives up on them.

Love.

Love was demonstrated over 3 days. 

Love was victorious over those 3 days. 

Love became the foundation for every follower of Jesus in those 3 days. 

Protect, bear with and never give up on anyone because Christ is with you and working through you. 

The light of the world was entombed in darkness.

God allowed man to do his worst. Nothing is blacker than a grave or more permanent than a tomb.

But remember who was behind the stone, LOVE. 

You may know the 1st day of pain.

You may know a 2nd day of nothing.

But we are people of LOVE.

We are people of the 3rd day.

We are people of tomorrow!

It will be better at dawn.

On the 3rd day God substituted Abraham’s son Isaac for a ram and rewarded his obedience.

On the 3rd day Moses was called to Mt Sinai to receive the commandments.

On the 3rd day God promised Hezekiah he would be healed and live a further 15 years.

On the 3rd day Esther went before the king on behalf of the Jews.

On the 3rd day Hosea says God will restore us so that we may live in His presence.

Those passages are more than coincidental. They speak of protection, bearing with and not giving up. Life had not ended. 

We are also people of the third day. 

Whatever is in front of you is not as secure as it makes out when LOVE is within you.

Love rejoices with the truth 

“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭6‬ ‭

If you love films, then you must watch ‘True Story’. It tells the story of Michael Finkel who through a lot of cost to himself learnt the importance of telling true stories.

If you love dramas, then you must watch ‘The Capture’. It follows British soldier Shaun Emery and a case against him in which CCTV footage plays an important role. Surely CCTV cannot be wrong?!

Just because the story is amazing.
Just because the storyteller is charismatic and amazing.
Just because you desire to be part of the amazing.

Just because it has been amazing whilst it lasted.
It doesn’t make it true.

Next time it sounds unbelievable well just slow things down and check out the facts.

Just because you see a part and not the whole doesn’t make the part true. Truth is found in the whole, the beginning, the middle and the end, the alpha and the omega. 

Truth is a person, Jesus.

It is so difficult when people are speaking lies about you or when they believe things about you that are not true.

What is spoken against you is not as established as it may look.

What is spoken to you about someone else is not the evidence of the reality.

It takes wisdom to dissect a lie.

It takes courage to walk through a lie.

Truth sets prisoners free even if they have wrongfully served years in prison.

Untangle the lies and Truth will lead you out.

Truth will bring something beautiful out of the ugliness of the situation.

Search for the Truth amongst the misconception and the path will become clear.

Truth is hard to discover when there is no sacrificial self-awareness.

Put Truth on the cross and wait for Him to rise to a new day.

When love is the core, the very foundation of our life then it rejoices and celebrates truth

Love is not easily angered and does not keep a record of wrongs 

“It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬ ‭

Yesterday the international news was basically about people getting angry!

Love was missing. It often is in the news items. 

Genuine love demonstrates restraint. It does not flare-up with the slightest provocation. It has created space for human mistakes. Moreover love can forget and if it cannot it resists bringing up past mistakes.

There are some incredible examples of love that are huge lessons for us all. If they can do this then surely we can also:-

  1. Eva Mozes Kor had forgiven the Angel of Death, Josef Mengele. However her adoption of the grandson of Rudolf Hoss, the SS Commander of Auschwitz, revealed genuine, extreme and sincere love. “I’m proud to be his grandmother. I admire and love him. He had the need of love from a family he never had.”
  1. Jung Jin-Wook and her husband had been Korean missionaries in Turkey since 2015, they were great evangelists. Then one day her husband, Kim, was attacked in the street whilst evangelising, he was fatally stabbed twice in the chest and once in the back. He was 41 years old. Later she wrote to her husband’s killer facing court: “I do not understand why you did this, but I cannot be angry at you. Many people want the court to give you a heavy punishment. But I and my husband don’t want this. We pray that you become worthy of heaven, because we believe in the worth of people. God sent his Son Jesus, who forgave those who persecuted him. We also believe in that and we pray that you would also repent of your sin.” It revealed genuine, extreme and sincere love.
  1. The horrendous picture of the naked girl in 1972 running for her life with the other children from the napalm bombs dropped in the Vietnam War went global. But so did her genuine, extreme and sincere love in 1996 at the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Washington, D.C when she forgave the pilot who dropped the bomb.

These stories reveal:-

  • Love conquering anger.
  • Love letting go of the record keeping of wrongs.

Are you angry? 

Remember this …

“Moses take the staff, speak to the rock and water will come out for the people.” That was the instruction but Moses was thoroughly tired of the people of God. He had justification to be angry. If only the Apostle could have told Moses beforehand that when angry, make sure you do not sin.

Moses took the staff and gathered the people at the rock. He looked at the people and something happened … anger came to the surface and he said “must we do this?” Of course the answer was “Yes because God told you to do this!” But Moses turned his attention from God and focused on the people. In anger he raised his arm and struck the rock twice.

 This outburst of anger, of playing God, ended his destiny.

  • Anger will keep you locked up until justice is done.
  • Anger can lay undetected for a long period of time.
  • Anger nullifies your position of being right.

 Are you angry?

 The Academy Award-winning movie Forrest Gump has been viewed by millions. There is a line worth noting. The scene has one of the central characters, Jenny, returning to her old home after her father has died. The old farm house is dilapidated and abandoned. As she reflects on the sexual abuse that she endured as a child, she is overcome by rage and begins throwing rocks at the house. The photography is powerful as it shows her rapidly reaching for rocks and then violently throwing them at the house. Jenny finally falls to the ground in exhaustion and the scene closes with Forrest Gump sympathizing, “Sometimes there just aren’t enough rocks.” Many of us struggle with anger. It can stem from a variety of reasons, and some anger seems very justifiable. Yet, unresolved anger leaves us reaching and crying out for more rocks. The rage is never satisfied, and contentment is never found. Through the power of Christ we can find the strength to speak into the solution and not strike the problem. Moses struck the rock as if he was striking the people.

 How you get your results is very important. Did you do it God’s way or your own way?

 Some leaders bully their congregations and berate them from the pulpit for all kinds of reasons. Little do they know that their people may arrive in the promises of God but they themselves may not.

How is always more important.

Are you angry? Let it go today.

 It’s not worth it.

It’s far better to not be angry because sin and stupid decisions are not far behind. The tie seller in the desert is the best example of this.

A man was dying in the desert. As he stumbled over a sand dune he was greeted by a man selling ties. The dehydrated man begged for water, but the salesman said he only had ties. In frustration and anger the weakened man continued on his journey for survival. In an hour he reached an isolated restaurant in the middle of the desert. Was it a mirage? As he drew closer, he saw it was real. He was ecstatic. With renewed energy he ran for the door. He was stopped at the entrance by a security guard who denied him entry. The guard said, “I’m sorry, sir, but you need to wear a tie to eat here.”

Be careful: what you may be angry at today could make perfect sense tomorrow.

Love is not self-seeking

“It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬ ‭

Love does not insist on getting one’s own way.

Remember when Jesus said he was going to suffer and His disciples chose that moment to talk about who was the greatest?

Even Peter, James and John, the closest disciples to Jesus and who had been chosen to go up the mountain of transfiguration were not content to be in that close circle of Jesus, they too wanted to be number 1. They were full of ambition. 

Still today even leaders want to be a higher leader, members want to be pastors, Pastors want to be apostles, apostles want to be bishops, bishops want to be archbishops and archbishops want to be Popes. That’s in the church but it is everywhere. Naked, raw ambition, climb the ladder, get to the top, it is better up there. Ambition is a killer of the church.

These 5 key points may help you:

Stop looking in the mirror – Find another visual aid other than yourself. 

Have some self-awareness – This might sound strange because it is an inflated self-awareness that leads to desires of greatness. Unless we change where we are sitting and get a different perspective we will miss the point. How do people experience me? This is the question that leads to self-awareness.

Become vulnerable again – Acknowledge you don’t know it all, have it all and can do it all. You need others in your life and you need Him.

Practice lowliness – From a lowly humble position comes lowly thinking, lowly speech and lowly actions.

Look and serve beneath you – The presence and the power of the Lord is always to be found in the unlikeliest of places and not on the stages of this world.

Love is not rude (amplified/cev) nor does it dishonour (niv)

“It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬ ‭

Using your left hand to shake hands; opening gifts as soon as they are given; showing the soles of your feet; crossing your legs; arriving on time v arriving late. All of these are examples of rudeness within cultures. Often those who go outside of their cultures end up being rude without realising it and it is very funny and no offence is taken. But in some cultures dishonour is to experience such great shame that it can only be cleansed by ritual suicide (Japanese samurai). There lies the huge spectrum of rudeness and dishonour.

In social media yesterday I caught a trail of conversation which started out with a request from someone and before long it turned into an argument between 2 unconnected people. It ended with a simple message “rude!”

I attended a conference several years ago and a church leader who hardly knew me and certainly not enough to ask me this question, with no introduction, “what are we going to do about your girth?” My response was immediate, with no attempt of an answer, but my own question, “what are we going to do about your rudeness?”

Love cannot be rude or dishonouring. Love treats others with respect and consideration. Love honours the dignity of the other person, takes into account their feelings and communicates with care. It is to choose kind words. 

Dishonour has become so normal that when honour is demonstrated it is a wow moment. Social media is full of dishonour. Those occupying great positions in the world of Church and Politics dishonour others all the time to reclaim ground. 

When dishonour doesn’t work, offence is born. Offended hearts end the show. The lights are out. Nothing is going to be done. Love has died. 

Love is not proud 

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭4‬ 

“As soon as enough people give you enough compliments and you’re wielding more power than you’ve ever had in your life, it’s not that you become … arrogant … or become rude to people, but you get a false sense of your own importance and what you’ve accomplished. You actually think you’ve altered the course of history.”
—Leonardo DiCaprio.

It’s a great quote from a great actor who has carried his faith in God throughout his life so far. 

It’s a message to us all. 

We often think suffering is the worst enemy for the Christian, it isn’t at all? We are often so very close to God in times of difficulty. We run to Him and He is our helper. The worst enemy comes when we have something to show. When we are full. When He has blessed us. When we have a testimony. When we are healed. When we are provided for. Where there are people who want to marvel in what has been achieved, what we own or who we have become.
We show off.
Look at me. See what I have and who I am.
We need to be reminded we are not that important. If God took everything away from us then that would certainly help. Maybe He might. 

“It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels.” -Saint Augustine

I think we genuinely need more people in all spheres of society but definitely in the Church, who will stand up and say that one of the hallmarks of their life is that they are lowly in their thinking of themselves. The axis of their worldview is that they recognise the value of others above their own value. They are humble.

Let’s stay in humility let’s stay dependent on our God.

Love does not boast

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭4‬ 

“I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.” So said the world’s most famous boxer, Muhammad Ali.

It was an outrageous boast.
But we are familiar with such.
We live in a world of big is better, more is greater, louder, larger, so many powerful words are used to describe how we are the best. 

We are setting fires all over the world!
We are taking cities for Christ!
Thousands and thousands came to Jesus through our ministry this year!
The most effective, the biggest church, the best welcome, the church with the largest influence, the anointed musicians. The number one church, pastor, preacher, book, conference blah blah blah. We’ve had it all this year. We read it and hear it every day. It has become so common to us we hardly notice it anymore so those who rely on such claims have to make bigger ones to get our attention.

But it’s not love.

Are you wise? Do people come to you for problem-solving? Don’t talk about it.
Are you strong? Do people marvel at your ability to get through tough times? Don’t talk about it.
Are you rich? Do people love your testimony of how God has blessed you with the ability to make money? Don’t talk about it.
Talk about this: God.
Talk about how He loves and treats people.
Gossip Him. Speak of yourself less. He is far more interesting than all of us put together!

In trying to understand what love is then knowing what it isn’t is a step in the right direction!

Love does not envy.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  (1 Corinthians 13 v 4)

What consumes you will plot your course.

If the goal of your life is to be popular then you will battle envy. (When others are more popular than you).

If the goal of your life is to have the biggest church then you will battle envy. (When your church stops growing and the one across town increases rapidly).

If the goal of your life is to be separated from sinners then you will battle envy. (When God starts to manifestly love on the sinners with grace and favour).

If the goal of your life is to appear to be better than you really are then you will battle envy. (When you see others who are lesser than you being used by God equally as you).

If the goal of your life is to solely remain entrenched in an interpretation of Scripture then you will battle jenvy. (When something happens that challenges that interpretation that is promoted as being from God).

If the goal of your life is to be the only mouthpiece of God then you will battle envy. (When God decides not to speak through you for a change).

What is the true goal? Is it love?