Missions Paul

The Bible speaks positively about sex within marriage.

What we are about to read highlights the need even moreso today to understand the message that Christians should proclaim regarding both the high value placed on sexual relations within marriage and the high value of celibacy for singles. 

“Now for the matters you wrote about: ‘It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.’ But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfil his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭1‬-‭7‬ ‭

Perhaps some in the church were advocating for a sexless marriage influenced perhaps by Greek philosophical idea that viewed the body as evil. 

Or perhaps this was another quote like the ones at the end of chapter 6 which Paul was correcting. 

Or maybe this was another misunderstanding from Paul’s first letter that he is now having to correct, “I didn’t say that nor mean it but let me quote what you wrote me …”

Note: Some people say that single pastors and preachers should not teach on sex within marriage. We see here that the thought is nonsense because the leading figure of the New Testament Church is single and is the one who speaks most about sex within marriage. 

So back to it. What do these 7 verses mean? Is it “good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman?” Paul says categorically NO. Here are 6 things he says:-

• All married people should have sexual relations with each other. 
• In fact it is a duty and not to do so is to deprive the other. If there is going to be a break then it should be seen as for prayer (and probably fasting) and only for a short time. 
• Either spouse does not have authority over their own body, it belongs to their spouse.
• Sex within marriage is for when both parties surrender perhaps their own desires (or lack of!) and give voluntarily their bodies to their spouses regardless, voluntarily, willingly and without compulsion. (The Lord loves a cheerful giver after all!)
• Both spouses have equal rights and responsibilities.
• Protect the marriage from unnecessary temptation by having regular sexual relations. 

Hold on! Here comes the slap in the face …. “I wish you were all like me, single and have a non-sexual life.” Paul will say more in the next few verses and we will get to them. But the teaching on sexual relations within marriage must be taught with this declaration in the background. There is no superiority between the married and the single member in the Church. For Paul, a single man, it is better to live a sex-free single life and we will find out why next. But Paul was not alone as history is full of powerful men and women who lived the single life starting with of course Jesus. But other great examples of historical Christian figures are Amy Carmichael, Corrie Ten Boom,, Jackie Pullinger, John Stott and Dietrich Bonhoeffer. So if you’re single and whether or not you are preferring not to be encouraged by what Paul writes. If you’re married then live out the vows you committed to one another and do what Paul says. But there is no superiority.

The title is so important for many who are already followers of Jesus. It isn’t those who have rejected Christ who will be deceived but those who follow. Why lie to the world? No the lie is to those within the Church. The lie is to blind us to what we already know or for us to change what we know to believe and follow an alternative way.

It was a rainy Saturday morning of my 2nd year in College and it was yet another football match against a local team. I was surprised I was in the team. I always thought I was making up the numbers. Others were far better. I’d run around a lot. If the ball came to me I would immediately pass it on with the attitude of ‘let me get rid of this thing’. Half-time came and as we walked off the pitch the captain of our team came alongside me and said he was going to make some changes and substitute one of the players. Immediately I offered to be substituted. It was the obvious thing to do. His response shocked me, “No. You’re one of our best players.”

In the second half I went on to that pitch a different man. I got that ball. I called for it. I ran with the ball. I tackled for the ball. I played a different game. Was the difference in my performance? Maybe, but it was definitely in my mind. All because my captain said you are more than what you think you are.

Many people are going through life not understanding who they are in Christ and as a result they can be fooled into wrong behaviour.

Paul will ask the question ‘do you not know?’ Why are you deceived?

“Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men ¹⁰ nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. ¹¹ And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” (1 Corinthians 6 v 9-11)

Are your sins in the list? It’s a list of 9. Which is the worst sin on the list? Can you grade them? Surely greed isn’t the same as men having sex with men? But Paul puts them together.
Some Christians get so angry with the sins of other Christians.
We don’t like seeing ourselves on the sin list.

Allegedly, Charles Spurgeon invited D.L. Moody to speak at an event he hosted. Moody accepted and preached the entire time about the evils of tobacco, and why the Lord doesn’t want Christians to smoke. Spurgeon, a cigar smoker, was surprised at what seemed to be a cheap shot levelled by Moody, using the pulpit to condemn a fellow minister. When Moody finished preaching, Spurgeon walked up to the podium and said, “Mr. Moody, I’ll put down my cigars when you put down your fork.” Moody was overweight.

We are all on someone’s sin list.
But not God’s.
Because we were washed, sanctified and justified!
It’s those 3 declarations which mean we are in the kingdom of God, within the rule of Christ.
So what is Paul saying?

Do you not know? Do not be deceived.

If we have fallen into the sin list then we know how to get out of it.

We want to be who we have been made to be in Christ.

We want to inherit the kingdom.

We want to stay in alignment to God and so we rely on the powerful name of Jesus who continually cleanses, makes us holy and declares us righteous by the work of the Holy Spirit within us.

We have seen Paul wading through the issues that he had bene informed of, probably from Chloe’s household (1:11) and in this chapter we see 2 more. The first is very apt for 2025. Before we read I don’t believe this is giving license not to inform the authorities of criminal activity within the Church. If the law is broken the Police need to be informed. The Church should not cover-up or be silent. If the Church knows of serious allegations of illegal behaviour then the Church should speak up.

“If any of you has a dispute with another, do you dare to take it before the ungodly for judgment instead of before the Lord’s people? ² Or do you not know that the Lord’s people will judge the world? And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases? ³ Do you not know that we will judge angels? How much more the things of this life! ⁴ Therefore, if you have disputes about such matters, do you ask for a ruling from those whose way of life is scorned in the church? ⁵ I say this to shame you. Is it possible that there is nobody among you wise enough to judge a dispute between believers? ⁶ But instead, one brother takes another to court—and this in front of unbelievers! ⁷ The very fact that you have lawsuits among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be cheated? ⁸ Instead, you yourselves cheat and do wrong, and you do this to your brothers and sisters.” (1 Corinthians 6 v 1-8)

When Jesus told us not to judge (Matthew 7:1) he wasn’t meaning that the Church, like that in Corinth, should totally ignore judgment within the Church. Jesus was speaking of the position of pride and our the attitude of our heart looking down on one another.

But it id difficult looking at an incident 2,000 years ago in a world very different to our own. However I see this passage being very applicable to us regarding how we handle disputes and civil matters within the tabloids of life, the courts of social media and indeed the civilian courts.

You have lived a sheltered life if you have been a Church member for years and not witnessed disputes. It happens wherever people gather. The Apostle Paul has something to say in these verses though that help us.

• We will judge the world and angels (v2-3). He reminds us of our future exalted position in Christ. We have the mind of Christ and the presence of the Spirit so why are we not able to judge between issues of the members of the church?
• It impacts the testimony of the Church (v4-6). The world sees the disunity and also how selfish we are to win the argument.
• There is no evidence of the cross of Christ (v7-8). Sometimes we need to realise that losing is actually to win.

So a few questions to ponder:

• In the Church how do we balance justice and unity?
• In the Church what are our pathways for conflict resolution?
• In the Church how can we handle disputes in a way that honours Christ and maintains the unity of the Church?

My gym has rules. My wife doesn’t obey the rules of the gym. But the gym cannot discipline her because she hasn’t joined the gym. Gyms are not for everyone. 

The Church isn’t for everyone. That sounds heretical but it isn’t. Not according to the Apostle Paul. For him the Church had rules. Not everyone obeyed those rules. But the church should not judge those who are not part of the church. They should only judge those who do.

Before we read and before I write anymore, I came across a letter the other day which came from an attender of my church 20 years ago. I saved it purposely even though it was a horrible letter from a man who threatened his resignation if I didn’t deal with the sinful woman who approached the Lord’s table with a t-shirt carrying the abbreviated slogan of the fashion designer, French connection, now known as unison. I’m thinking of this because there are times when those passing judgment on a fellow believer cannot see their own sin which far outweighs that of those they are accusing. I eventually helped him with his resignation! The point I am making is this, being a judge inside the church needs careful handling. We need to tread carefully. Some have experienced deep hurt from pharisaical judges. We are all sinners. 

““But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people. What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside. ‘Expel the wicked person from among you.’”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭5‬:‭11‬-‭13‬ ‭

The church is not being unloving or extremely judgmental or bordering on abusive if it disciplines its own members who live unrepentant heinous lifestyles (like having an affair with your step-mother). 

Some may want to begin immediately to look at the rules and Paul does provide a list. However the main point is that harsh judgment for those outside the church and leniency for those within runs counter to how the church should be. 

It is nonsensical to expect those who have not decided to follow Christ to follow the standards of Christ. 

The integrity and the witness of the church demands that the standards within the Christian community are higher than those outside. It is also the responsibility of the Church community to maintain those standards. There is no place for individualism. The Church is not a gathered group of people who live out their faith in whatever way they decide. Rather the Church has a responsibility to protect the holiness of the community. 

So we don’t exit the world, far from it, we are present in the world as light in the darkness.

But we sadly might have to show the exit door to a member of the church community who blatantly spits in the face of that community by being ‘wicked’. We do that for restoration not simply punishment.

We have no authority to police those outside the church but every church needs a structure of accountability in order to correct and keep us in alignment to the Word and the Spirit. 

The Church with no rules or who turn a blind eye to the rules are strictly not the church. Let judgment begin within the house of God but let God help us!

So we are nearly at the end of chapter 5. We have read five chapters of First Corinthians and then today we find out something we didn’t know when we started reading this letter. The first is actually the second!

^“ I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— ¹⁰ not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. ¹¹ But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people. ¹² What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? ¹³ God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.” (1 Corinthians 5 v 9-13)

Paul had already written to them. This was a second letter. The first had been misunderstood. Paul had written to the Church not to associate with those who claim to be Christian but who engage in four areas of behaviour. They misunderstood and took it to mean that what they were already probably doing, shunning and judging those outside the Church, was validated. Now he has to write again to correct their understanding and he takes the opportunity to add a couple categories. We will get in to those and what he says about them tomorrow.

Paul says, ‘you misunderstood me’, ‘I didn’t mean it that way, I was meaning this …’

The Holy Spirit did not preserve that letter which had been misunderstood.

We have all experienced being misunderstood. Our response can vary from being bemused as to how the person could misunderstand what we had said to self-reflecting on if we could have communicated more clearly.

I guess the greatest response is a frustrated sigh, a sinking feeling within that someone completely misses what you have been trying to say. It is like speaking a language that no one seems to understand.

Misunderstandings can happen to anyone.

It can be a lonely place especially if a whole group seem to have misunderstood you. Over time if you have a few of these moments then they stack up against you so that you begin to second-guess everything that you say or do. Is it me? Should I just stay quiet?

It happened to Jesus.

He was misunderstood when he rode into Jerusalem on a donkey saying, ‘I’m not that kind of hero, I’m a different king.’

Judas misunderstood the mission of Jesus with traumatic consequences.

It is clear Jesus was telling us his disciples would be misunderstood as he was: “If the head of the house has been called Beelzebub, how much more the members of the household” (Matthew 10 v 25)

Sometimes being misunderstood is the price for being authentic. When you live true to yourself you may not fit neatly into the boxes others have created. Better to be misunderstood than not be you.

Being misunderstood doesn’t diminish your worth or value of who you are or even what you have done or in Paul’s case, what you have written. Being misunderstood isn’t a reflection of your identity or your values or your truth.

You will be misunderstood in fact we should almost expect it for not everyone will understand you and that maybe more to do with them than you. but this doesn’t have to be a permanent state.

Never let misunderstanding silence your voice. Your voice matters even when it seems no one is listening. The most important thing you can do is not give up. Keep speaking the truth. Keep fine-tuning your message and in that moment when you receive genuine understanding you will even be grateful for all the misunderstandings that led you to exactly this place.

You can go again, write a second letter!

As we start this new year I am wondering how the Church in my nation will navigate the immoral challenges of last year. I am further wondering about the challenges of my own denomination and the Pastors and churches that I oversee. What will they face this year? What difficulties will need to be dealt with? As we move into a new chapter and begin to see what was on Paul’s heart as he writes this letter I am thinking especially of the challenge of church discipline.

“It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that even pagans do not tolerate: A man is sleeping with his father’s wife. ² And you are proud! Shouldn’t you rather have gone into mourning and have put out of your fellowship the man who has been doing this? ³ For my part, even though I am not physically present, I am with you in spirit. As one who is present with you in this way, I have already passed judgment in the name of our Lord Jesus on the one who has been doing this. ⁴ So when you are assembled and I am with you in spirit, and the power of our Lord Jesus is present, ⁵ hand this man over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, so that his spirit may be saved on the day of the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 5 v 1-5)

What can be an abhorrence to one half of the Church can be something that is celebrated or ignored in the other half.

A man is having an affair with his step-mother which obviously not only wrecked his father’s marriage (if he was still alive) but has been the talk of everyone’s lips inside and outside the church. Paul has got to know and what did the church who believed they were so amazing do? Nothing!
So Paul wades in and starting from this situation begins to talk about other sins and what to do when they get into the church, which we will get to in the next few chapters.

Why did the Church not do anything about this situation (interestingly it would seem it was only the man who was a church member)?

Maybe it was because:-

• They didn’t know what to do.
• The belief more in the freedom of the individual to choose how to live.
• They had a liberal view of sexuality.
• Their arrogance about their spiritual gifts and their division over which leader is best to follow blinded them to the moral failure and their compromise.

Paul’s response was this:-

• Anger, Paul was appalled.
• He addresses the whole Church.
• He wants the man out of the Church. This seems harsh perhaps.
  • But it gives the man chance to see what the consequences of his actions are; discipline is for restoration not mere punishment.
  • It is so the Church can be saved. We don’t live out our Christian faith independent of a community. What we do impacts them.

The challenge is to find the balance between keeping to the orthodox teaching of the Bible whilst creating a culture of ongoing repentance.

Accountability without legalism.

Redemptive discipline without rejection.

Grace and truth not either.

For this year and for the Ministers and Churches my prayer is that love will find a way for church discipline.

The last day of 2024 and I have some challenging questions for us who live in a world where appearances are everything and so much so that there are even jobs with the titles of a ‘social media influencer’ and it pays well! Within the Church there exists an arena of celebrity preachers with polished presentations and with an expert backroom team who can make anything look and sound good! That’s our world inside and outside the Church.

I have some questions but first let’s read Paul’s comments.

“But I will come to you very soon, if the Lord is willing, and then I will find out not only how these arrogant people are talking, but what power they have. ²⁰ For the kingdom of God is not a matter of talk but of power. ²¹ What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a rod of discipline, or shall I come in love and with a gentle spirit?” (1 Corinthians 4 v 19-21)

So here are the questions:

• What is of most importance? The world knowing you are spiritual or actually walking in the power of God?
• Do we tell people about Jesus or do we just talk about doing so?
• Do we really expect powerful acts of God when we pray for someone or would we prefer they be blessed with a lesser expectation?
• Do we welcome a challenge over any blind-spots? Do we ask to be challenged?
• When confronted with our errors and blind-spots do we respond with humility or pride?
• Do you need a ‘rod of discipline’ because you have become impressive to your world or do you need a ‘loving and gentle’ approach to encourage you to stop living like you are unimpressive to everyone?

These questions come from Paul’s challenge over our Christianity being more of words than the power of the Spirit.

As we approach a new year let us do so with a desire that our Christianity be seen more regarding a demonstration of the Spirit’s power than our skillful words, arguments and presentations. Let us seek not to be filled with pride but with His power which genuinely expresses itself through humility, love and transformation. We may not be slick but we can serve for the glory of God. We may not be skilled but we carry the presence of the Spirit who is greater in us than he that is in the world.

We have heard that quotation many times and probably every time it was misattributed to the wrong person, even by John F. Kennedy in a speech in 1961. It is a quote from the 18^th century and wherever it did originate from it carries a truth that the Church needs to heed. That remaining neutral or doing nothing when the situation calls for a voice and action is a big mistake.

Here’s another quote which is not misattributed. Paul is addressing a serious issue that had developed in the Church, arrogance.

“Some of you have become arrogant, as if I were not coming to you. ¹⁹ But I will come to you very soon, if the Lord is willing, and then I will find out not only how these arrogant people are talking, but what power they have. ²⁰ For the kingdom of God is not a matter of talk but of power. ²¹ What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a rod of discipline, or shall I come in love and with a gentle spirit?” (1 Corinthians 4 v 18-21)

A serious issue had happened in the church. It wasn’t the division, Paul has addressed this. We will find out soon enough what it was. But it was a sexual immoral situation which the Church leaders did nothing about and instead they became arrogant over the issue if that is possible (which we know it is). Like children misbehaving when their parents are not in sight  or school children with the teacher out of the classroom acting however they want, they just didn’t think Paul was going to come to them. Paul writes and says not only will he send Timothy but he is coming himself. Out of sight is not out of mind for Paul. He is coming and they need to be ready. The language used reminds us of another coming, that of Christ. It is easy for us to be lulled to sleep behaving like Jesus will not return in our lifetime. But if Jesus was to come again in 2025, how would you live your life now?

Back to the problem. They had done nothing about the issue but in Paul’s absence they were also attacking his apostleship turning people away from him. So the issue was sexual immorality which the leaders were not only not doing anything about but they were taking advantage of the absence of Paul. It is the same today when the orthodox, faithful-to-the-Bible are present in the church then generally those who would prefer to turn a blind eye or even promote such error don’t hang around because they have no room to spread their alternative gospel. But when the orthodox, faithful-to-the-Bible are not present or if they’re present they are not courageous enough to do and say what is right, then the arrogant rise and issues of error grow.

As Christians (especially if you are a Christian leader) then your responsibility is to say something. Doing nothing is not an option. We are not only messengers of good but we are activists of stopping wrongdoing creeping into the church.