Category: Devotions

“It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬ ‭

Yesterday the international news was basically about people getting angry!

Love was missing. It often is in the news items. 

Genuine love demonstrates restraint. It does not flare-up with the slightest provocation. It has created space for human mistakes. Moreover love can forget and if it cannot it resists bringing up past mistakes.

There are some incredible examples of love that are huge lessons for us all. If they can do this then surely we can also:-

1. Eva Mozes Kor had forgiven the Angel of Death, Josef Mengele. However her adoption of the grandson of Rudolf Hoss, the SS Commander of Auschwitz, revealed genuine, extreme and sincere love. “I’m proud to be his grandmother. I admire and love him. He had the need of love from a family he never had.”

1. Jung Jin-Wook and her husband had been Korean missionaries in Turkey since 2015, they were great evangelists. Then one day her husband, Kim, was attacked in the street whilst evangelising, he was fatally stabbed twice in the chest and once in the back. He was 41 years old. Later she wrote to her husband’s killer facing court: “I do not understand why you did this, but I cannot be angry at you. Many people want the court to give you a heavy punishment. But I and my husband don’t want this. We pray that you become worthy of heaven, because we believe in the worth of people. God sent his Son Jesus, who forgave those who persecuted him. We also believe in that and we pray that you would also repent of your sin.” It revealed genuine, extreme and sincere love.

1. The horrendous picture of the naked girl in 1972 running for her life with the other children from the napalm bombs dropped in the Vietnam War went global. But so did her genuine, extreme and sincere love in 1996 at the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Washington, D.C when she forgave the pilot who dropped the bomb.

These stories reveal:-

• Love conquering anger.
• Love letting go of the record keeping of wrongs.

Are you angry? 

Remember this …

“Moses take the staff, speak to the rock and water will come out for the people.” That was the instruction but Moses was thoroughly tired of the people of God. He had justification to be angry. If only the Apostle could have told Moses beforehand that when angry, make sure you do not sin.

Moses took the staff and gathered the people at the rock. He looked at the people and something happened … anger came to the surface and he said “must we do this?” Of course the answer was “Yes because God told you to do this!” But Moses turned his attention from God and focused on the people. In anger he raised his arm and struck the rock twice.

 This outburst of anger, of playing God, ended his destiny.

• Anger will keep you locked up until justice is done.
• Anger can lay undetected for a long period of time.
• Anger nullifies your position of being right.

 Are you angry?

 The Academy Award-winning movie Forrest Gump has been viewed by millions. There is a line worth noting. The scene has one of the central characters, Jenny, returning to her old home after her father has died. The old farm house is dilapidated and abandoned. As she reflects on the sexual abuse that she endured as a child, she is overcome by rage and begins throwing rocks at the house. The photography is powerful as it shows her rapidly reaching for rocks and then violently throwing them at the house. Jenny finally falls to the ground in exhaustion and the scene closes with Forrest Gump sympathizing, “Sometimes there just aren’t enough rocks.” Many of us struggle with anger. It can stem from a variety of reasons, and some anger seems very justifiable. Yet, unresolved anger leaves us reaching and crying out for more rocks. The rage is never satisfied, and contentment is never found. Through the power of Christ we can find the strength to speak into the solution and not strike the problem. Moses struck the rock as if he was striking the people.

 How you get your results is very important. Did you do it God’s way or your own way?

 Some leaders bully their congregations and berate them from the pulpit for all kinds of reasons. Little do they know that their people may arrive in the promises of God but they themselves may not.

How is always more important.

Are you angry? Let it go today.

 It’s not worth it.

It’s far better to not be angry because sin and stupid decisions are not far behind. The tie seller in the desert is the best example of this.

A man was dying in the desert. As he stumbled over a sand dune he was greeted by a man selling ties. The dehydrated man begged for water, but the salesman said he only had ties. In frustration and anger the weakened man continued on his journey for survival. In an hour he reached an isolated restaurant in the middle of the desert. Was it a mirage? As he drew closer, he saw it was real. He was ecstatic. With renewed energy he ran for the door. He was stopped at the entrance by a security guard who denied him entry. The guard said, “I’m sorry, sir, but you need to wear a tie to eat here.”

Be careful: what you may be angry at today could make perfect sense tomorrow.

“It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬ ‭

Love does not insist on getting one’s own way.

Remember when Jesus said he was going to suffer and His disciples chose that moment to talk about who was the greatest?

Even Peter, James and John, the closest disciples to Jesus and who had been chosen to go up the mountain of transfiguration were not content to be in that close circle of Jesus, they too wanted to be number 1. They were full of ambition. 

Still today even leaders want to be a higher leader, members want to be pastors, Pastors want to be apostles, apostles want to be bishops, bishops want to be archbishops and archbishops want to be Popes. That’s in the church but it is everywhere. Naked, raw ambition, climb the ladder, get to the top, it is better up there. Ambition is a killer of the church.

These 5 key points may help you:

Stop looking in the mirror – Find another visual aid other than yourself. 

Have some self-awareness – This might sound strange because it is an inflated self-awareness that leads to desires of greatness. Unless we change where we are sitting and get a different perspective we will miss the point. How do people experience me? This is the question that leads to self-awareness.

Become vulnerable again – Acknowledge you don’t know it all, have it all and can do it all. You need others in your life and you need Him.

Practice lowliness – From a lowly humble position comes lowly thinking, lowly speech and lowly actions.

Look and serve beneath you – The presence and the power of the Lord is always to be found in the unlikeliest of places and not on the stages of this world.

“It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬ ‭

Using your left hand to shake hands; opening gifts as soon as they are given; showing the soles of your feet; crossing your legs; arriving on time v arriving late. All of these are examples of rudeness within cultures. Often those who go outside of their cultures end up being rude without realising it and it is very funny and no offence is taken. But in some cultures dishonour is to experience such great shame that it can only be cleansed by ritual suicide (Japanese samurai). There lies the huge spectrum of rudeness and dishonour.

In social media yesterday I caught a trail of conversation which started out with a request from someone and before long it turned into an argument between 2 unconnected people. It ended with a simple message “rude!”

I attended a conference several years ago and a church leader who hardly knew me and certainly not enough to ask me this question, with no introduction, “what are we going to do about your girth?” My response was immediate, with no attempt of an answer, but my own question, “what are we going to do about your rudeness?”

Love cannot be rude or dishonouring. Love treats others with respect and consideration. Love honours the dignity of the other person, takes into account their feelings and communicates with care. It is to choose kind words. 

Dishonour has become so normal that when honour is demonstrated it is a wow moment. Social media is full of dishonour. Those occupying great positions in the world of Church and Politics dishonour others all the time to reclaim ground. 

When dishonour doesn’t work, offence is born. Offended hearts end the show. The lights are out. Nothing is going to be done. Love has died. 

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭4‬ 

“As soon as enough people give you enough compliments and you’re wielding more power than you’ve ever had in your life, it’s not that you become … arrogant … or become rude to people, but you get a false sense of your own importance and what you’ve accomplished. You actually think you’ve altered the course of history.”
—Leonardo DiCaprio.

It’s a great quote from a great actor who has carried his faith in God throughout his life so far. 

It’s a message to us all. 

We often think suffering is the worst enemy for the Christian, it isn’t at all? We are often so very close to God in times of difficulty. We run to Him and He is our helper. The worst enemy comes when we have something to show. When we are full. When He has blessed us. When we have a testimony. When we are healed. When we are provided for. Where there are people who want to marvel in what has been achieved, what we own or who we have become.
We show off.
Look at me. See what I have and who I am.
We need to be reminded we are not that important. If God took everything away from us then that would certainly help. Maybe He might. 

“It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels.” -Saint Augustine

I think we genuinely need more people in all spheres of society but definitely in the Church, who will stand up and say that one of the hallmarks of their life is that they are lowly in their thinking of themselves. The axis of their worldview is that they recognise the value of others above their own value. They are humble.

Let’s stay in humility let’s stay dependent on our God.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭4‬ 

“I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.” So said the world’s most famous boxer, Muhammad Ali.

It was an outrageous boast.
But we are familiar with such.
We live in a world of big is better, more is greater, louder, larger, so many powerful words are used to describe how we are the best. 

We are setting fires all over the world!
We are taking cities for Christ!
Thousands and thousands came to Jesus through our ministry this year!
The most effective, the biggest church, the best welcome, the church with the largest influence, the anointed musicians. The number one church, pastor, preacher, book, conference blah blah blah. We’ve had it all this year. We read it and hear it every day. It has become so common to us we hardly notice it anymore so those who rely on such claims have to make bigger ones to get our attention.

But it’s not love.

Are you wise? Do people come to you for problem-solving? Don’t talk about it.
Are you strong? Do people marvel at your ability to get through tough times? Don’t talk about it.
Are you rich? Do people love your testimony of how God has blessed you with the ability to make money? Don’t talk about it.
Talk about this: God.
Talk about how He loves and treats people.
Gossip Him. Speak of yourself less. He is far more interesting than all of us put together!

In trying to understand what love is then knowing what it isn’t is a step in the right direction!

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  (1 Corinthians 13 v 4)

What consumes you will plot your course.

If the goal of your life is to be popular then you will battle envy. (When others are more popular than you).

If the goal of your life is to have the biggest church then you will battle envy. (When your church stops growing and the one across town increases rapidly).

If the goal of your life is to be separated from sinners then you will battle envy. (When God starts to manifestly love on the sinners with grace and favour).

If the goal of your life is to appear to be better than you really are then you will battle envy. (When you see others who are lesser than you being used by God equally as you).

If the goal of your life is to solely remain entrenched in an interpretation of Scripture then you will battle jenvy. (When something happens that challenges that interpretation that is promoted as being from God).

If the goal of your life is to be the only mouthpiece of God then you will battle envy. (When God decides not to speak through you for a change).

What is the true goal? Is it love?

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  (1 Corinthians 13 v 4)

In a closing line of the Hollywood film ‘Noah’ we are brought to the realisation that since the beginning of time kindness has been longed for. Ham had disrespected his father Noah and was setting out from the family in shame and alone.

Here’s the script:

[Packed and ready to leave Ham walks over to Ila]

Ila: You don’t have to go.

Ham: I don’t belong here. For what it’s worth, I’m glad that it begins again with you.

[Ila embraces him]

Ham: Maybe we’ll learn to be kind.

[We see Ham walking away into the distance on his own]

It’s a sobering line isn’t it?

The only way we will learn to be kind is to be filled with the love of God.

Love is kind. It is to look outwards all the time and not inwards.

Maybe we will learn to be kind. Maybe.

In another epic movie, CINDERELLA, Prince Charming says to her, “Be kind and all will be well.”

The world longs for kindness.

The Church can demonstrate it. If we choose to do so.

Every day I have an opportunity to be like God, to put on kindness. To be kind. To think of others for no other reason than because of kindness. More of them less of me. Love and sacrifice. I have an opportunity for that to be my life’s testimony.

• Kindness is to step aside from your life to engage in another’s.
• Kindness is to come down, not in a patronising way, but in a selfless manner.
• Kindness is not to hold on to what you have but to empty yourself so that others can hold what they have never held.
• Kindness is to move across the room, to leave the room, to walk across the street, to journey, crossing borders and cultures very different to your own.
• Kindness is humility.
• Kindness attracts the dirt and the mess of life.
• Kindness is good news to the poor and a release to those who are held back.
• Kindness opens eyes, lifts burdens off people and helps people into the next chapter.
• Kindness can often be misunderstood and even criticised.
• Kindness can be killed off but kindness will still keep coming back.

Maybe we can learn to be kind again.

Let love come.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ⁸ Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. ⁹ For we know in part and we prophesy in part, ¹⁰ but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. ¹¹ When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. ¹² For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. ¹³ And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13 v 4-13)

What is love?

It is patient.

The national tree of Sri Lanka is the talipot, it is a palm tree that grows to a height of 82 feet. It only flowers once but it happens some time when it is between 30 – 80 years old. Yet I seem to live in a world where we want everything now.

Maybe you wake today to another day of battling the discouragement and disappointment of what is now on you. Within you is patience that will not give up. It never admits defeat. It is not finished off by disappointment or discouragement. Within you is love, His love.

A woman rushed up to famed violinist Fritz Kreisler (1875-1962) after a concert and cried: “I’d give my life to play as beautifully as you do.” Kreisler replied, “I did.”

If you plant a Chinese bamboo seed, it will sit in the ground for five years and appear to not be making any changes. Then, over a six-week period, it will grow 90 feet.

There is a giant Himalayan lily which spends most of its life looking like nothing at all but then after 5-7 years it grows to 9-10 feet tall and produces the most amazing delicately shaped flowers.

However, when it comes to human achievement and maybe even our own process of maturing, we are the most impatient.

Yet no human, not even Jesus moves from baby to man without the need to grow.

Within that growth comes many challenges and pains attached to the process. These are necessary for development.

The truth is one day you will stand before Him the finished article. Until then you are in the growing phase, being perfected for eternity.

Today is another day to grow. Embrace it. Love your way through the day. Let this love be patient with yourself and with others.

I have been impressed by those who can preach with charisma.
I have been awed by those who speak through a filter of heaven itself.
I have been excited by those who speak for God.
For those with wisdom and knowledge, those with huge faith levels I have given the deepest of respect to.
What always stirs my heart are those who give of what they have and of themselves, laying everything down before God and man. I am moved by sacrificial, self-less surrender of wants and rights for the good of others. Yet even this amazing trait needs the right motive otherwise the gain is empty.

Paul pauses his response to the spiritual gifts as badges of honour with what has become the world-wide known love passage. Spoken mostly at weddings, seen on plaques and pictures, it speaks today to us all to practice the words. Paul opens the passage up with a warning.

“If I speak in the tonguesof men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. ² If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. ³ If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.” (1 Corinthians 13 v 1-3)

Oh how we rave about the gifted, skilled and able people!

This week I heard of a Pastors daughter and her husband who have given up on church though they were gifted with tremendous worship leading ability, they’ve dropped out. Why? They saw how the large church they attended dealt with their interns. They realised they were just a number, a cog in the wheel. They burnt out not because of a lack of faith or because they were frustrated with a gift-less church. They dropped out because of a lack of love.

Some are more concerned with their love of structures and strategies than the love of the saints.

What do churches need? Great preachers? The language of men and angels? Being a mouthpiece for God? Having wisdom and knowledge? Faith to be and act and do miracles upon miracles? What about amazing philanthropists? Is that it? Is that what our churches and communities need?

I talked with a pastoral couple yesterday and they reflected how after a number of years pastoring their church that their town knows the church loves the people in the community. The town knows they are loved by the church. Isn’t that amazing!

Here it is: love. Everything else doesn’t matter if you don’t have it.

Do they love people?
Is love for others the motivation behind their gifting, their action?
Loving really matters.
How you treat people counts!
Without love all you have is nothing.

We have seen the power of these spiritual gifts. We have been encouraged to eagerly desire them especially the greater gifts. But there is something that outweighs all of this.

Paul steps away from the spiritual gifts for a chapter. The gifts have divided the church and they have missed something of more importance.

He is going to show them.

“And yet I will show you the most excellent way.” (1 Corinthians 12 v 31)

I have seen a church which has wonderful structures, policies and the management of the church is second to none. Yet that church has not moved into this realm that Paul will speak of. In all of their excellent development they have not discovered the most excellent way.

I have seen a church which has developed a wonderful strategy of communication. I haven’t ever seen such a model. It is purposeful and it is done to give people freedom to express their desires and concerns. Yet the tone suggests they haven’t met the most excellent way.

We have read of a church that moves in the spiritual gifts and yet is divided because they have not known the most excellent way.

There is a way which outweighs all others. There is a way that diminishes all other efforts of man. There is a way that outshines even what God gives to man. This way has been shown. It has been demonstrated by God. It is the most excellent of ways.

There is a realm that is very different to the world we wake to and live in today.

When He speaks the most excellent way is spoken.

When He sends the most excellent way is opening up.

When He shows up the most excellent way is here.

The world does not know it, though they long for it. The most excellent way never originated with us. We had nothing to do with it. We would not have known this way unless we had been shown it.

So we move into this most excellent way….